40's, What A Shift!

There’s a quiet shift that happens for many of us as we move through our 40s.

The drive for intimacy, that spark we once carried so effortlessly ~ for some, begins to flicker differently. In my (Sophie) life, I'm questioning EVERYTHING....and it's NOT talked about! We'll, I'm done with NOT talked about....here we go!

Sometimes softer. Sometimes quieter. Sometimes it feels like it’s disappeared altogether.

And for a lot of us, that change comes with confusion, guilt, shame and even grief.

“Where did my desire go?”

“Is it my hormones?”

“Is it menopause or perimenopause?”

“Am I broken?”

" I should be!"

Let me tell you something from my heart ~ which is still mending, you are not broken.

You are evolving!

Our bodies are sacred, cyclical, and constantly transforming. Hormones shift, emotions deepen, responsibilities multiply, and stress can weave its way into every crevice of our being. Between family, careers, caregiving, small business management & development and the mental load that never seems to quiet, it’s no wonder that sometimes, desire takes a backseat.

But what if instead of seeing it as a loss… we saw it as an invitation?

An invitation to come back home to your body.

To reintroduce yourself to your sensuality in a gentler, slower way.

To feel safe again...truly safe ... in your body, in your emotions, and with your partner.

Before we can rekindle connection with someone, we need to rekindle it within ourselves.

Ask yourself:

● Do I feel safe in my own skin right now?

●Do I feel healthy and vibrant in my body, or is it asking me for rest, nourishment, or tenderness?

● What stories am I telling myself about why my desire has changed?

●Are those stories true?

●Does my partner actually see me that way… or is that just my inner critic whispering fear?

Sometimes it’s not about hormones or physical changes at all, it’s emotional disconnection, burnout, feeling unseen, or simply being touched out.

Have you ever gone to the point of being overwhelmed with touch?

I know I have....

And sometimes, it’s all of it.

And that’s okay.

Healing intimacy starts with compassion, not pressure. It’s not about “getting back” or "Just do it" to how things used to be, but rediscovering what intimacy means for you now.

Intimacy isn’t just sex. It’s connection. It’s a look across the room that says, “I still see you.” It’s laughter in the kitchen, shared silence, slow touches, or holding hands during chaos. It’s letting yourself be witnessed, without needing to perform.

And when you start tending to your own energy, through breath, sound, movement, rest, and presence, what EVER you truly NEED....that spark begins to find its way back.

Softly. Naturally.

STOP~LISTEN and start trying new things, find the things that make you say...HELL YES!

✨️HONOUR YOURSELF ✨️

If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. Many of us are walking this same journey, learning to love ourselves in new ways, to honour our changing bodies, and to let intimacy grow from a deeper, more soulful place.

Because true connection doesn’t fade with age…

It evolves with wisdom & awareness.

And that, my friend, is where the real magic begins.

Ask me how it's going...because I am right in the middle of it too!

Your friend,

Sophie Turner

✨️When we nurture our energy… intimacy naturally follows.✨️